It is so easy to ignore his blatant flaws because you are in love with a fantasy. You are in love with who he could possibly be, not who he is in this moment. It seems as if your knight in shining armor cannot so much as hold down a minimum waged job. But, who knows? Perhaps one day he could be as brilliant as Clark Gable.
We shall look at this the other way around. I have taken acting classes. I have also been known to be charming, manipulative, as well as persuasive. I would even say that my looks are above average. If I had a borderline personality and blonde hair flattered me, I wouldn't be the next Marilyn Monroe. In fact, I doubt anyone would particularly care that she and I wore the same size! What I am simply saying is that in order to be like her I would have to do much more than talk about it. No one would ever believe that I could be as great as her unless they saw it for their own selves. Let's take the same objective with the opposite sex!
We, as women, should only believe in the potential that we see them living up to. For example, if he has a good job to begin with, it would be logical to assume that he is capable of finding an even better job. If he is, say, a three time felon who has never had a real job, why would you assume that he may own his own company someday? It is just not going to happen. Set your standards. Do not settle for someone that does not meet your criteria.
I have settled for less than I deserved in the past. What can I say about it really? It was simple and easy to get my way. In the end I was so dissapointed, to say the least. It was quite embaressing when he chose a girl in his own class. Imagine the type of girl show cased on Maury being picked over a woman of a higher class. It was most deffinitely a blow to my ego. But, it was a lesson learned. I shall never date outside of my class ever again.
I will choose someone who meets my standards and that Ican pick exactly as they are. I will no choose a fellow who I have to imagine that one day he will be worth mentioning. I believe that the group TLC says it best. No Scrubs!
